Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Family Coaching

Gove and I went to our family coaching session tonight. This was our 3rd visit and we both see an improvement in our family overall. The contention between children especially was getting out of hand and now things are moving towards hope and peace I do believe. I am grateful to be so close to LDS services.
This morning I sewed the trim around Gove's scout flag and I think I will try to sew the edges of all the letters tomorrow. I made it to BYU and bought the 05-06 speeches book because there were other subjects I want to read as well. I took the kids with me to Alpine to pick up 3 boxes of frozen fruit I had ordered.
Gove was able to use a winch to pull the last piling of our deck straight and dumped enough dirt around the footing to hold it in place.
I was able to call my friend Donna as well this morning and had a nice talk with her. She offered her advice; to attend BYU ed. wk. and go to Scott and Angel Anderson's classes. I found a catalog at the book store and will make plans, find a setter for our kids and go. Maybe Gove can come as well. Donna says the skills offered by this couple have been invaluable to the raising of her family.
Our chickens still found a way under the hen house to lay eggs this morning. We did some reinforcement and I think we have it blocked off completely now. 1 chicken did lay an egg on the floor inside the house so that is a step in the right direction.
Gove is trying to talk to me as I am typing this. We are listening to Les Mis and are learning about the reign of Napoleon as a side track to understand the time frame. Which just might help us in our epiphany rate.
Besides working to still get all the laundry cleans from camping today, I was able to start typing up our notes from the seminar. Leah H. called and wanted to make sure that we are attending the Face to Face with Greatness #2 in September. We are, and I am excited to feel like I can contribute at the colloquium of Les Mis.
Tomorrow morning I am going to the Provo temple for personal meditation. The kids will spend the morning with Daddy.
The kids are enjoying the audio tapes for Little Women. I heard that Jo placed Arnica (which is an herbal plant pain relief) on Meg's ankle. I learned about arnica from my mother inlaw and it is very useful.
-Good night
-Good night

Monday, July 30, 2007

It's Just Around The Corner...

I have felt hopeful and excited all day. I started with a great 'good morning' to the kids, we cleaned the upstairs and although there was a few difficulties with attitudes all the children came to see that Mom was series and yet I was not yelling. We cleaned up the chicken coop and racked old grass and scraps and dirt under the hen house with the hope of keeping the hens out from under there so that they will stop laying their eggs here. Our chickens just started laying about 1.5 weeks ago. I am now trying to teach them to lay in the hen house. I have a couple of eggs in the hen nest and tomorrow I will leave them in the coop because I found an egg down by the canal this evening.
Each Monday night after Family Home Evening, I or Gove takes a child for a date. Tonight it was I and Mattia. We bought a gift for a friends birthday this Wednesday afternoon. We have been holding dates with our children since we lived in New Orleans 2001-2006. We continue here in Utah now and our kids are always aware that there is a date for someone each month.
While at the seminar this past weekend, Rachel DeMille spoke about the lack of our cultural literacy. We have the E.D. Hirsch books on cultural lit. so for FHE this evening, we started with the dictionary for children and talked about Proverbs. It was enjoyable to each of us to voice our opinions as to the meanings. Sadly my daughter Beth was not interested in being friendly and her actions were ignored and we focused on positive praise for proper behavior seen in the other children. I figured Beth was tired. All the same, she continued and lost 15 minutes of swim time this week. She might be able to gain some of the time back to proper role play when given an instruction.
I took the opportunity to share some of what I learned at the seminar today. My new neighbors, the Coopers and with my sister Carrie. There are gaps and I see the need to type up my notes and continue to share to place this info into my mind and continue to have transformational experiences.
My epiphany for today: I was talking with one of my neighbors to day and had a sudden realization about the saying 'Utah Mormons' I think the fact the Mormons here live next to each other it is easier for contention between church members. Everywhere we have lived there is at lest a couple of blocks up to miles between members. I think there can be something to this since I was wondering about this and then this epiphany came to my mind.
It's just around the corner: I have such a sense that my understanding for my mission a this time in my life is just around the corner and I will soon see clearly. It involves my children, and something more...I have felt so uplifted with this feeling of peace and assurance coming my way.
I am thankful and grateful.
I have been bothered lately about the Harry Potter series. I have enjoyed reading the series to myself and to my family. However, there are those of homeschool and GWC who do not think it's worth while reading. While viewing the blog of Julia (wheredidmymindgo.blog) I was surprised to find a student of GWC who had prepared over 800 pages about Harry Potter's positive aspects. For my family we have spent time together carving our own wands from cedar, bass, and eucalyptus trees. We have talked about our religious beliefs as we read. We have used our imagination to create our own spells. We have stayed up late together to pick up a book that our children were excited about. This last book, it was interesting to see what happens to a person when they have constantly unhappy, unrighteous thoughts, who never considers remorse verses forgiveness, desire to do good and not harm, to feel remorse for wrong committed. How grateful to know of the power of repentance. I have heard talk about the 'Lord of the Rings' being a better choice. I have not read this volume yet but I have seen the movie and I has not impressed with all the fighting. I do see the value of me reading and waiting to form an opinion on this.
Time for sleep. I am tired. I am still trying to get the laundry from camping cleaned and better smelling.
Today Gove and I learned that infra red treatments are very helpful with tendonities. Gove finally decided to go to Dr. McClean who is my chiropractor for his tendonities in his right wrist. Acupuncture was also used. Maybe he will finally have some healing take place now. Gove was also able to move more dirt with his tractor and is moving further along the back of the house dumping dirt down the hill as he goes.

Sunday, July 29, 2007

Here I am For The First Time

This is my day to rejoice. It's Sunday for one thing. I started this week with visiting teaching. I and my partner visited 3 sisters. We talked about holiness and purging of our hearts through Christ.
My family and I returned last night from 5 days of camping at Panguitch lake and then 2 days in Cedar City at George Wythe College for a seminar entitled How To Read A Book. I have been excited to share an epiphany I had Friday night the 20th of this month. It was 11pm and I was standing in the book line at BYU bookstore to pick up my HP book when it came to me in a sudden realization that I was standing there and I needed to read something. The closest book was the 2005-2006 BYU speeches and I started with the first talk. I'm sorry to say that I have lost the piece of paper where I wrote the authors name but I am going to go get either the book or his name this week. Here is what I heard... reading of classics helps us to connect with the times and the emotions in which our ancestors lived. The author was taking about genealogy and connecting our hearts more fully to our ancestors through readings of classic works. I have been so touched by this simple statement. Currently I am learning Les Mis and now as I read, I am thinking not only of ancestors but people I will someday meet in heaven and if I can understand the time in which they lived through reading I will be more understanding of them in our communications.
While camping 5 days in the rain and cooler temperatures, we as a family read #7 of Harry Potter. There we were up in the mountains, the Western Tanagers flying all over the place and the Broad Tail Hummingbirds along with the Rufus Hummingbirds chasing the Broad tail that looks closely like the Ruby Throated Hummingbird were everywhere! It was amazing to see so many birds in our camp area along with chipmunks. Anyway I felt there were a number of spiritual epiphanies to share with our kids are we read. I am glad to be finished with the series now. I look forward to finishing the Ralph Moody books and the 10th book in the Nephite in Tennis Shoes(finally) series with our kids.
I will need to ponder the teachings of Oliver Demille in the seminar we attended, but I feel very hopeful that I am on the way to learning how to read a book properly. Boy I so want to talk to others about this. I did try to share a little with my sisters while visiting teaching. What was key for me? 1. Epiphanies: I did not realize that I had an epiphany while waiting for the HP book but now I do. I should be working for an epiphany rate 'ER' of 12 per hour. 2. Read to learn: I have always felt that I have to read from the first word to the last. I would take lots of notes but I never felt like I could remember anything worth while. 3. Read for transformation not information. I think that the speech I read at BYU is this beginning of transformation for me. 4. I love the idea of taking books for a date. Within a few minutes I can decide if I should go further into courting, then marrying or not, and then love. What I found so freeing is that I can learn 80% of a book by reading 20% and just because I marry a book does not mean that I have to read the whole thing. 5. Note taking: If I take notes they should be either for teaching others or a do list. This is where I should right my epiphanies.
I'm still nervous about this change that I hope to develop in my life. This educational change follows beside a spiritual change for me as well. Not long ago I realized that I do not have a testimony for motherhood. What I learned from my mom I have passed on to my daughters and son. I wanted to stop. We are now taking family coaching lessons and it is helping too. Friday night after our first day at the seminar, we had to go date some books, and marry one. I decided to marry As A Man Thinketh by James Allen. It was during my 20 minutes of learning that this epiphany came to me... I need to tell my children each day that I am thankful to be their mom

and thankful that they are letting me be their mom this day. So far so good. I also will be attending the temple weekly. Simply, I know this is going to bless us as well and help me to gain the testimony I am lacking.
I think this is fun now. I can progress. I have questions, lots of them, I need guidance and I'm ready to ask now. Thank you Heavenly Father. Until next time....