I have avoided writing about home schooling for a long while now because I had felt like I was falling short with our son and occasionally with our girls. Instead of saying something here that might have been read, recognized and understood by someone else, I tried to bury concerns and not talk with anyone except my husband. I don't think that was such a good idea for me or for other parents trying to home school and struggling with boys between 12 and 14 years of age.
I have to remind myself that choosing to home educate does work... and using the tools of leadership education, Charlotte Mason, the Gospel of Jesus Christ, etc... good results do happen.
For example: Our 12 year old daughter has taken control of her education this year. She reads many hours, teaches herself Latin after taking an online class through Leadership Education Academy, she has realized her level of spelling is behind and has taken the responsibility with my help for daily spelling exams using the Spelling Power program.
All three of our youth use the Teaching Textbooks for math. Between the lessons and additional reviewing with Dad, this program is going quite well. (I received a call from the company asking if I would like to sell their product for them at a UHEA booth this summer. I declined because $15/hr doesn't interest me.)
They attend art classes, mentoring clubs, girls clubs, choir, write letters and essays, following politics, learn about the constitution, participating in colloquiums, play together, go to parks, piano, do chores, argue, love and forgive, attend seminary, hold devotionals, dream about the future, study middle ages in history, serving in church and our community each month.
Our third child has really come along ways with the Scottish-Rite Take Flight Program for dyslexia over the past 18 months. Writing and reading continue to be challenges, yet there are more and more rewards seen by this young gal and her parents.
My point is that I can see our first daughter is in her first year of scholar education. And the second still in love of learning but she sees she can progress like her older sister.
It's our oldest boy that has been a surprise for me. I was concerned. I am not now concerned as I once was and that is why I feel I can write about this. I suppose the biggest part of all of this was coming down upon my knees and after several prayers receiving assurance that certain steps had to be taken and not to worry my pretty head and heart over this. God is in charge. Growth is available as it is wanted and worked for. I seek to keep doing my duty as a parent who has made covenants with Heavenly Father regarding the raising of our family.
Maturity really is quite different for everyone and between the sexes. I have learned from my mentor Belinda that many moms go through a time with their sons during ages 12-14 were moms feel "like failures" but it passes, maturity and understanding grows for both the youth and the adult.
For our son, who doesn't appear to want to do anything that is hard, who seems to want to be social but holds back from to much commitment, doesn't want to do a lot of things (though I truly feel he is 12 to 24 months away from his scholarly blooming,) we have decided to use a charter school this fall for him. He was accepted to the new Freedom Academy High School. This isn't what my heart wants for him but it is what my husband wants right now until our boy sees his education as really being his. Opportunities are open for Eli. He is taking the steps to become a volunteer at the space camp facility this summer, will attend Youth For Freedom, youth home school conferences in the area and who knows what else God will bring into his life to help in the molding and growth process.
Yes, I struggle with how things are going with our children maybe more so than other woman but I just wanted to say that I also feel things are going to work out for my boy who is 14 and has much to grow and learn. He is an honest young man who is aware of other youth with limitations. So, for all the anxiety I was letting myself so through what I need was more trust and giving opportunities for making choices and learning from consequences before leaving home. Yikes, leaving home is potentially just four years away. I feel this is really going to work out as it is suppose to.
Peace to all of you moms and dads with concerns for your 12 to 14 year old sons. What I have typed here are things related to education. I could do much about personal growth and the hormones of boys, my goodness but that's for some other time and probably not here but in a personal setting if so moved by the spirit to share.